Do you ever feel trapped? That you have so much more to offer? Work, upbringing or society are stifling you? Do you long for confidence? Do you wish you had the ability to take advantage of the opportunities life presents “if only you weren’t so worried about getting it wrong”?
I’ve been there. In fact, I’m still on the same journey. My parents were both the youngest siblings and so I was brought up to believe I had to be dutiful and do my best within strict confines. I went from one institution (family, school, university) to another: the military. The release I felt when I discovered I could be myself and do things my way was so liberating I wanted to share it with everyone! Let me show you the way forward for you.
A sense of humour is just common sense, dancing.
– Clive James
Be All You Can Be
The world is changing, that’s a given. And we’re programmed to do it. As Ivan Tyrrell and Joe Griffin (of Human Givens) point out, without a sense of stretch in our lives we actually become more stressed. (Older people are encouraged to learn new skills and otherwise engage their brains to ward off the effects of Alzheimer’s disease.)
A coach once pointed out to me, that “if something’s worth doing…it’s worth doing badly.” At first I was puzzled by this but, on reflection, it makes a lot of sense. Try it. There is an immense joy in having new experiences and learning and improving with practice.
Our Coaching Relationship
I will provide you with the time to explore your inner most thoughts. Together, we’ll explore them and determine whether they’re helping or hindering you. Only you know what’s right for you and so a lot of coaching is about allowing the client to choose their own way.
For this, you have to be completely at ease.
I will create that environment for you – there is nothing you can say that will shock me. Our conversations will go no further than between us. (Unless I am concerned that you will do harm to yourself or others).
One of the Human Givens ‘needs’ is a need for emotional intimacy. Someone who is entirely on your side. Even romantic partners aren’t necessarily emotional intimates. The inner chimp, emotion, gets in the way. Each inner chimp is looking for the threat in the conversation or looking for a way to win.
I take a real joy in walking alongside you, offering different perspectives and occasionally there to catch you when you stumble.
Relationship Counselling
People fall in love, get together and, a few years down the line, start to struggle with the relationship. No-one’s life is perfect and neither are relationships. It’s often said that “relationships need to be worked at” but sometimes it helps to have someone else to signpost the way forward. My ethos in coaching is to find the hidden magic in clients. In the same way I’ll help you both find the gold in your relationship.
In my murky past I have experience of all sorts of relationships, including, sadly, failed ones, but through my training in human behaviour and as a coach and counsellor I can offer you an above average service.
I want people to be happy – research has shown that those in healthy relationships lead much more fulfilling lives. I’ll help you find that happiness if it’s there to be found.